Feminism, Geek Culture, LGBTQ, Reviews, Sexuality

The Failure of FindMySuperhero.com

FindMySuperHero.com bills itself as a “niche” dating website for geeks who are interested in “Sci-Fi, Anime, Comic Books, Video Games or just love Cosplay,” but the site doesn’t live up to the hype.

(Disclaimer: I received a free membership from FindMySuperhero.com in return for an honest review.)

FindMySuperhero.com homepageUnfortunately, FindMySuperhero.com isn’t even a good general interest dating site. Despite the name of the site, geek interests aren’t emphasized at all, and queer and/or female users might not feel comfortable with the site’s pigeonholing. The site prompts and smothers users with detailed profile information while both the users and the messaging system seem better suited for casting wide, generic nets when contacting people. The average WWAC reader, or anyone looking to date people with similar interests, should pass on this site.

Probably the only thing geeky about FindMySuperhero.com is its url. While its homepage did display models dressed as Supergirl and Captain America, there are zero geeky interests, such as sci-fi/fantasy, comics, video games, or anime, available as interest options on user profiles. The closest geek option is the vague “internet” option. And although users are able to type in their own interests into their profile description, none of the profiles I browsed through included any fandom or nerdy interests. (One profile professed an interest in hunting and fishing. I’ve only fished once, and the most hunting I’ve ever done was on “Oregon Trail” in fifth grade).

Selection of "Interests" to add to your user profile on FindMySuperhero.com

Selection of “Interests” to add to your user profile on FindMySuperhero.com

Aside from the lack of actual geeks on FindMySuperhero, the site’s other failing is its insistence on information and lots of it. Aside from the profile description, I also had to write a profile summary, make “lifestyle” selections, and pick my interests. Meanwhile, the user homepage is cluttered and full of information that’s either extraneous or repeated. For instance, I’m already notified of new messages, new winks, and suggestions of guys to meet up with on the homepage itself, but the personal menu bar at the bottom repeats the message and wink notifications while also including chat statuses, how many profile views I have, any people that I favorited, and a search bar. Scrolling down on the user homepage reveals filterable profile photos, names, ages, and distances of all the male users currently online, as well as how many new members signed up that day. Is all of that information even necessary? The result of all of this information are profiles with one-word answers and generic introductory messages that can’t even be tailored to individual people. Oh, and you have to pay a monthly fee to even see those messages that get sent to you. After all that, I end up getting messages from men who are either far too old for me and/or have no shared interests.

The site is also not queer or female-friendly. The registration page, for instance, forces the user to identify as male or female after which it appears that the site automatically chooses your sexual orientation (the dating app Bumble, it should be noted, allows users to view the profiles of and interact with both genders). I identify as female, so I was shown profiles of men. Filling out the “lifestyle” section also turns into a detailed description of physical attributes that feels like a way to judge if users fit very specific beauty standards. For example, the options for “build” range from “Petite” to “Very Large” with descriptors such as “Athletic,” “Voluptuous,” and “Cuddly” in between. What if I’m petite and cuddly? Or voluptuous, but also athletic? Interestingly the Supergirl model on the site’s homepage is quite busty. The Captain America model, however, seems to be sporting a padded suit instead of actual muscles. (A side note: My first profile summary write-up was rejected due to, I suspect, the fact that I stated that I was a feminist.)

FindMySuperhero.com fell short of all my expectations. Instead of a geek dating site, I found an over-complicated, not very queer or female-friendly website with a geeky theme that doesn’t extend further than its homepage. The site simultaneously offers a wealth of descriptive attributes, which in turn forces users to message people they’re interested in (and pay a fee) to truly get to know them. With my review published I don’t plan on using the site further. The average WWAC reader shouldn’t waste their time.